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Unpopular Opinion: Money & Dating Edition

I can't even explain how much this Unpopular Opinion thing has spun out of control on social media, but I couldn't resist the opportunity to use it for this post and podcast.

When it comes to money, we know women are at a disadvantage, black women especially. Overall, women make 80 cents on the dollar compared to men. When you look only at blacks, the gap is smaller, but still favors men. This among other things has created a dynamic especially among younger black men in which they are hyper concerned about being used for their money, taken advantage of, seen as nothing more than ATM.

But when happens when men are so used to being put into that position that they react to it -- even when they're NOT in that position?

According to 2018 Pew research, there are a few areas in the country when women actually make more than men (and I've just to happen to live in/near three of them):

As you can see there are mostly all suburbs of Atlanta, New York, and D.C. So what do you do in a dynamic where women actually make more? At what point do we balance traditional gender roles against the fact that the numbers don't always actually back up those roles? I'm not sure I have the answers, but I do have some thoughts.

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